How to Support a Partner Who Is Scared to Give Birth Again
If your partner is scared to give birth again after a difficult or traumatic experience, knowing what to say, and what not to say, makes all the difference. Here's how to really help.
MENTAL HEALTH MIDWIFE
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Every article on this blog is written from my experience as an NHS Mental Health Midwife, on birth trauma, tokophobia, pregnancy after loss, and what actually helps.
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If you're pregnant again after a difficult or traumatic birth, the fear you're feeling right now isn't irrational. It's your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do.

If your partner is scared to give birth again after a difficult or traumatic experience, knowing what to say, and what not to say, makes all the difference. Here's how to really help.

Tokophobia is a recognised, treatable fear of childbirth affecting far more people than the statistics suggest. Here's what it actually is, and why so few people ever get the support they need.

If you're pregnant again after a traumatic birth, the fear that's come back makes complete sense. Here's what no one tells you, and what actually helps.

If you've had a difficult or traumatic birth before, your experience holds wisdom. Here's how to use it gently to feel safer, more prepared and more in control this time.

Worrying thoughts during pregnancy after trauma don't stop just because you tell them to. Here's what actually helps, and the evidence behind why it works.

Your birth environment directly affects your hormones and how labour unfolds. Here's how to shape your space to feel safe, supported and in control, whatever kind of birth you're having.
"You don't need to calm down. You need someone who
understands why you can't."
KATIE SMITH · MENTAL HEALTH MIDWIFE
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