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If you're pregnant again after a difficult or traumatic birth, the fear you're feeling right now isn't irrational. It's your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do.

How to Support a Partner Who Is Scared to Give Birth Again

How to Support a Partner Who Is Scared to Give Birth Again

If your partner is scared to give birth again after a difficult or traumatic experience, knowing what to say, and what not to say, makes all the difference. Here's how to really help.

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What is Tokophobia and Why is No One Talking About It

What is Tokophobia and Why is No One Talking About It

Tokophobia is a recognised, treatable fear of childbirth affecting far more people than the statistics suggest. Here's what it actually is, and why so few people ever get the support they need.

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Pregnant After a Traumatic Birth - What No One Tells You About the Fear That Comes Back

Pregnant After a Traumatic Birth - What No One Tells You About the Fear That Comes Back

If you're pregnant again after a traumatic birth, the fear that's come back makes complete sense. Here's what no one tells you, and what actually helps.

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Using Your Past Birth to Shape a More Positive Birth This Time

Using Your Past Birth to Shape a More Positive Birth This Time

If you've had a difficult or traumatic birth before, your experience holds wisdom. Here's how to use it gently to feel safer, more prepared and more in control this time.

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How to Manage Worrying Thoughts During Pregnancy After Trauma

How to Manage Worrying Thoughts During Pregnancy After Trauma

Worrying thoughts during pregnancy after trauma don't stop just because you tell them to. Here's what actually helps, and the evidence behind why it works.

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Creating a Calm Birth Environment How to Feel Safe, Supported and in Control

Creating a Calm Birth Environment How to Feel Safe, Supported and in Control

Your birth environment directly affects your hormones and how labour unfolds. Here's how to shape your space to feel safe, supported and in control, whatever kind of birth you're having.

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"You don't need to calm down. You need someone who

understands why you can't."

KATIE SMITH · MENTAL HEALTH MIDWIFE

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